Ever Want to Spend the Day in Bed?

Sleeping beauty compressedToday I woke up wanting to spend the whole day in bed.

I felt a combination of being tired and lazy and that ‘enough is enough!’—whatever that means!

After a nice run (you can do this when you own your own business) I got my lazy butt to my desk about 11 am.

I REALLY did not feel like doing anything and yet I had so many things I needed to do, I realized that it was all making me very uncomfortable.

Then I remembered what my business coach and mentor Christine Kane said recently.  She said: Being in business means being uncomfortable.

So today I decided to first concentrate and do on my list what makes me MOST uncomfortable.  This included:

  • Asking two clients for testimonials (Hate this, but it is a good thing to do.)
  • Paying some big bills (Oh, I hate this.)
  • Following up on a letter to a prospective client and on two referrals (Huge resistance here.)
  • Writing this blogpost (do I really want to admit I am distracted – what will people think?!)

I must say after facing the discomfort, I feel much better…something is beginning to flow, my concentration is indeed more stable, more focused.

I have more energy – alot more.  How about that?

Whether I work for myself or for others I am realizing that if I want to keep growing and learning, I have to come to terms with the fact that some of the time (maybe MUCH of the time) I will be UNCOMFORTABLE.

It means getting out of my cozy nest of familiar patterns – way out of them. (Please let me out of them! They are holding me back and so boring!) Even though I recognize this, I am so comfortable in them. The neural ruts are well worn.

Last week in our Skillful Means Training the Mind for Leadership Group Program, we focused on ‘Concentrating Mind’.

I see my well-worn comfortable neural ruts are keeping me from developing stable concentration.

Some part of my mind is comfortable being scattered and distracted, even though I don’t get my work completed like I want and it really tires me. So tiring, I just want to stay in bed.

Staying in bed, having low energy and avoiding the business of my business, however, is a big price to pay for distraction.

It is said in Skillful Means “All great accomplishments are based on right concentration.

I plan to keep doing what is most uncomfortable first.  It is hard, but I feel better.  It  is a new habit I want to build, to unblock the bottled up energy that gets diverted and neglected when I am distracted.

Want to try this, too? I am curious to know if it will help you.

What do you feel most uncomfortable doing today that you know needs to be done? Can you do it anyway? What is that like?  How does it feel?

Below, please share your thoughts and experience of being uncomfortable to find your right concentration.



  1. melanie mitchell says:

    When I find myself procrastinating and avoiding what I need to do, I make a list (while I’m still in bed!) of everything I need to do…inlcuding everything I can think of…even if it’s not business-related. Then I force myself to get started on anything and usually it’s some kind of housework (not fond of housework but it’s kind of mechanical). Then as soon as I complete the smallest task, I cross it off the list. CROSSING OFF IS SO MOTIVATING! It just feels so good to have accomplished anything..and before I know it, I’m moving on to the next item on the list that I know I can tackle at that moment. Eventually, I’ll get to what I really need to do but in the moment of idling, I just need to get going doing something. This is what can work for me.

    • Melanie – Love that you start with something like housework – I imagine this gets you into your body and out of the mental realm of procrastinating and avoiding. And crossing off the list is great too – again a physical action. It is really about building positive momentum. Simple things can make such a difference. Great suggestions. Thank you for sharing.

  2. Great article, Teri! Whenever I cross uncomfortable things off my list I feel a little bit lighter. One thing that is always on my uncomfortable list is following up with people I met at networking events. When I do it and get replies from the folks I connected with it always feels so good and my heart feels lighter. Great idea to do the uncomfortable first. I’m going to start today!

    • Thanks Nozomi – That is an uncomfortable one for me too – but I always love it when a genuine person reaches back and connects with me after a networking event, so I see it is very worth doing. Still it is simply uncomfortable for me. Something about ‘just doing it’ really helps.
      It is great feedback that your heart ‘feels lighter’ – then you know you are on the right track! Thanks again for sharing.

  3. Monique Robichaud says:

    I heard years ago it is important before even getting out of bed to sit up and do a great ‘all over’ arms reaching out, legs lengthened body ‘stretch’ – then slowly rise out of bed and welcome the day… at first – thought this was ‘mumbo jumbo’ .. then for my own curiosity and research – I thought I’d give it a go… turns out – it does work!

    Regardless of how you may feel when laying in bed staring at you alarm clock and feeling robbed of precious rest…. It simply ‘disappears’ after a good morning stretch BEFORE getting out of bed … it really does give a POSITIVE ‘body and mind’ impact – and that gets me out of bed usually with a smile towards myself for even doubting the effects of such a simple action …. I’ve also noticed both my dog and cat do the same thing when getting up from a long period of rest… they each do an amazing ‘stretch’ followed by a ‘happy camper’ attitude…

  4. Thanks Monique – I love this practice! I am going to give it a try. Even if I don’t do any other physical practice in the morning – at the very least I could do this! It so helps to ’embody’ our presence as we start the day. We are much more whole! Thank you again for sharing, very helpful.

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